The sometimes abusive voice of the abused

We love to imagine we live in a world where those who have felt the pain of abuse more keenly understand the importance of kindness and the pain of its absence.  Unfortunately this isn’t always so, and abused populations are subject to the human flaw that the abused often become abusers themselves.  It’s striking how often people who identify as having been excluded use abusive tools when they become available to them.  Weather it’s direct physical violence, tools for social exclusion or other forms of marginalization, abuse is always wrong and it damages effort to create environments to overcome it.  As we try to develop a mature notion of progressive societies, our model of inclusion has to evolve to emphasis compassion and understanding over retribution or compensation through allowable aggression.